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We cannot live without our lives
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There should be no censorship of mail.
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Censorship
Mail
Should
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Vengeance is not the point: change is.
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Our own pulse beats in every stranger's throat.
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Pulse
Spiritual
Stranger
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Punishment cannot heal spirits, can only break them.
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Break
Heal
Punishment
Spirit
Spirits
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Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.
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Let Me
Live In The Moment
Moments
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Surely all of us are nerved by one another, catch courage from one another.
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A liberation movement that is nonviolent sets the oppressor free as well as the oppressed.
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Strength
Liberation
Movement
Wells
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Think first of the action that is right to take, think later about coping with one's fears.
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Fear
Coping
Firsts
Thinking
Fears
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To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek.
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Needs
Speak
Violent
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Nonviolent tactics can move into action on our behalf men not naturally inclined to act for us.
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Men
Behalf
Moving
Tactics
Naturally
Inclined
Nonviolent
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A great many of us must move from words to acts - from words of dissent to acts of disobedience.
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Great Men
Moving
Obedience
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People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.
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Needs
People
Attack
Undermine
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This is the heart of my argument: We can put more pressure on the antagonist for whom we show human concern.
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Antagonist
Argument
Concern
Heart
Pressure
Whom
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All prisons that have existed in our society to date put people away as no human being should ever be put away.
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Our Society
People
Prison
Date
Existed
Human Being
Prisons
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It is one thing to be able to state the price the antagonist paid, another to be able to count you own real gains.
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Able
Gains
Real
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Nonviolent action does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences.
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Action
Doe
Nice
Be Nice
Consult
Effect
Nonviolent
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there is clearly a kind of anger that is healthy. It is the concentration of one's whole being in the determination: this must change.
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Anger
Determination
Healthy
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The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors.
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Mean
Neighbor
Should
Equally
Injunction
Neighbors
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I learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others - even others better than I am.
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Judgment
Judgment Of Others
Should
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People may find it more comfortable to listen to us if we equivocate, but in the long run only words that discomfort them are going to change our situation.
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Change
Running
Long
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Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people's minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide.
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Change
Enemy
Mind
People
Trouble
Vengeance
Victory
Coincide
Minds
Point
Punishing
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To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek. The most effective action both resorts to power and engages conscience.
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Action
Conscience
Meek
Speak
Effective
Resort
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The point is to change one's life. The point is not to give some vent to the emotions that have been destroying one; the point is so to act that one can master them now.
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Destroying
Emotion
Giving
Master
Vent
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We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women-whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.
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Differences
Justice
Voice
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We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women - whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.
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Differences
Stories
Best Time Women
Same Time
Voices
Whose
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Our task, of course, is to transmute the anger that is affliction into the anger that is determination to bring about change. I think, in fact, that one could give that as a definition of revolution.
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Anger
Affliction
Determination
Revolution
Thinking
Definition
Task
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We believe, in fact, that the one act of respect has little force unless matched by the other - in balance with it... The acting out of that dual respect I would name as precisely the source of our power.
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Balance
Believe
Matched
Names
Dual
In Fact
One Act
Precisely
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The longer we listen to one another - with real attention - the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.
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Peace
Attention
Careful
Commonality
Diversity
Our Lives
Real
Stories
All Our Lives
Life Will Find
Exchange
Simply
Life Real Will
Longer
Opinions
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After the revolution, it might very well remain necessary to place people where they could not do harm to others. But the one under restraint should be cut off from the rest of society as little as possible.
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Cutting
Harm
Littles
People
Restraint
Revolution
Cut
Remain
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Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try - by punishing the troublesome - to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously.
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Doubt
Jail
No Doubt
Troublesome
Trying
Conspicuously
Deter
Fails
Generally
Jails
Punishing
Speaking
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I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision... is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.
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Abandon
Familiar
Vision
Adopt
Choice
Concept
Enable
Enemies
Naming
Nonviolent
Oppressive
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I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.
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Choices
Enemy
Thinking
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The free man must be born before freedom can be won, and the brotherly man must be born before full brotherhood can be won. It will come into being only if we build it out of our very muscle and bone - by trying to act it out.
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Men
Being Free
Brotherhood
Free Man
Freedom Man Free
Muscle
Bone
Won
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After the revolution, let us hope, prisons simply would not exist - if by prisons we mean places that could be experienced by the men and women in them at all as every place that goes by that name now is bound to be experienced.
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Men
Mean
Men And Women
Names
Revolution
Hope Men Women
Bound
Exist
Experienced
Hope Women Men
Let Us
Prisons
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Gandhi once declared that it was his wife who unwittingly taught him the effectiveness of nonviolence. Who better than women should know that battles can be won without resort to physical strength? Who better than we should know all the power that resides in noncooperation?
Barbara Deming /
Peace
Battle
Effectiveness
Wife
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What is the revolution that we need? We need to dissolve the lie that some people have a right to think of other people as their property. And we need at last to form a circle that includes us all, in which all of us are seen as equal... We do not belong to the other, but our lives are linked; we belong in a circle of others.
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Peace
Lying
Thinking
Ubuntu
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Nonviolent actions are by their nature androgynous. In them the two impulses that have long been treated as distinct, 'masculine' and 'feminine,' the impulse of self-assertion and the impulse of sympathy, are clearly joined; the very genius of nonviolence, in fact, is that it demonstrates them to be indivisible, and so restores human community.
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Masculine And Feminine
Self
Two
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most Americans are in deep awe of things-as-they-are. Even with everything this obviously out of control, they still tell themselves that those in authority must know what they are doing, and must be describing our condition to us as it really is; they still take it for granted that somehow what is, what is done, must make sense, can't really be insane. These assumptions exercise a tyranny over their minds.
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Exercise
Insane
Mind
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To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek. The most effective action both resorts to power and engages conscience. Nonviolent actions does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences. Nor does it have to petition those in power to do something about a situation. It can face the authorities with a new fact and say: Accept this new situation which we have created.
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Peace
Doe
Needs
Nice
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It is not as mirrors reflect us but, rather, as our dreams do, that movies most truly reveal the times. If the dreams we have been dreaming provide a sad picture of us, it should be remembered that - like that first book of Dante's Comedy - they show forth only one region of the psyche. Through them we can read with a peculiar accuracy the fears and confusions that assail us - we can read, in caricature, the Hell in which we are bound. But we cannot read the best hopes of the time.
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Dream
Movie
Book
Mirrors
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Balance and control come from healthy anger. This is just as aggressive as the unhealthy kind. But it is based on a belief and hope for change in social roles and institutions. Healthy anger demands change and creates the confrontations needed for change to occur. It also gives the other an opportunity to help make that change. “Our task, of course, is to transmute the anger that is affliction into the anger that is determination to bring about change. I think, in fact, that one could give that as a definition of revolution.
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Opportunity
Determination
Giving
Thinking
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Something seems wrong to most people engaged in struggle when they see more people hurt on their own side than on the other side. They are used to reading this as an indication of defeat, and a complete mental readjustment is required of them. Within the new terms of struggle, victory has nothing to do with their being able to give more punishment than they take (quite the reverse); victory has nothing to do with their being able to punish the other at all; it has to do simply with being able, finally, to make the other move... Vengeance is not the point; change is.
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Hurt
Moving
Struggle
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Manliness has been defined as assertion of the self. Womanliness has been defined as the nurturing of selves other than our own - even if we quite lose our own in the process. (Women are supposed to find in this loss their true fulfillment.) But every individual person is born both to assert herself or himself and to act out a sympathy for others trying to find themselves - in Christian terms, meant to love one's self as one loves others ... Jesus never taught that we should split up that commandment - assigning 'love yourself' to men, 'love others' to women. But society has tried to.
Barbara Deming /
Jesus
Christian
Love You
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