Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.

There really is "no effort without error and shortcoming" and there really is no triumph without vulnerability.

Knowledge is important, but only if we're being kind and gentle with ourselves as we work to discover who we are.

Vulnerability is not about fear and grief and disappointment; it is the birthplace of everything we're hungry for.

The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It's our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.

If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.

When they teach [doctors] how to suture, they also teach them how to stitch their self-worth to being all-powerful.

I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.

Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It's the magic sauce.

Vulnerability is not about winning, and it's not about losing. It's about having the courage to show up and be seen.

What's the greater risk? Letting go of what people think - or letting go of how I feel, what I believe, and who I am?

That's really part of being a grounded theory researcher - putting names to concepts and experiences that people have.

There is no such thing as creative and non-creative people, only people who use their creativity and people who don't.

Perfectionism is self destructive simply because there's no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal.

It's hard to practice compassion when we're struggling with our authenticity or when our own worthiness is off-balance.

The moment someone asks you to do something you don't have the time or inclination to do is fraught with vulnerability.

Anonymous comments? You're not in the arena, man. If you can't say it to me in person in front of my kids, don't say it.

We judge people in areas where we're vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we're doing.

Vulnerability is the absolute heartbeat of innovation and creativity. There can be zero innovation without vulnerability.

Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do 'faith.'

Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging. It’s being all in.

We are hardwired to connect with others, it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering.

Joy, collected over time, fuels resilience - ensuring we'll have reservoirs of emotional strength when hard things do happen.

I believe a joyful life is made up of joyful moments, gracefully strung together by trust, gratitude, inspiration, and faith.

Joy comes to us in moments--ordina ry moments. We risk missing out on joy when we get too busy chasing down the extraordinary.

We're hardwired for connection. There's no arguing with the bioscience. But we can want it so badly we're trying to hot-wire it.

Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness.

We are a culture of people who've bought into the idea that if we stay busy enough, the truth of our lives won't catch up with us.

Cool is the emotional straightjacket. It makes us less available for connection which makes us less equipped for leadership roles.

Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It's tough to do that when we're terrified about what people might see or think.

Compassion is not a virtue -- it is a commitment. It's not something we have or don't have -- it's something we choose to practice.

Mindfully practicing authenticity during our most soul-searching struggles is how we invite grace, joy and gratitude into our lives.

The question isn't so much "Are you parenting the right way?" as it is: "Are you the adult that you want your child to grow up to be?"

You cannot talk about race without talking about privilege. And when people start talking about privilege, they get paralyzed by shame.

Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do than what we know about parenting.

Guilt is just as powerful, but its influence is positive, while shame's is destructive. Shame erodes our courage and fuels disengagement.

Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be our best. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth; it's a shield.

But I don't think it's as dangerous, scary, or terrifying as getting to the end of our lives and wondering, what if I would have shown up?

There is nothing more vulnerable than creativity. . . It's not about winning, it's not about losing, it's about showing up and being seen.

I don't have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness - it's right in front of me if I'm paying attention and practicing gratitude.

I can encourage my daughter to love her body, but what really matters are the observations she makes about my relationship with my own body.

I am a storyteller and a researcher, and I'm sorry the world has a hard time straddling the tension of those two things, but that's who I am.

I'm never more courageous than when I'm embracing imperfection, embracing vulnerabilities, and setting boundaries with the people in my life.

Our need for certainty in an endeavor as uncertain as raising children makes explicit 'how-to-parent' strategies both seductive and dangerous.

Feeling vulnerable, imperfect, and afraid is human. It's when we lose our capacity to hold space for these struggles that we become dangerous.

Faith is a place of mystery, where we find the courage to believe in what we cannot see and the strength to let go of our fear of uncertainty.

My husband's a pediatrician, so he and I talk about parenting all the time. You can't raise children who have more shame resilience than you do.

Men walk this tightrope where any sign of weakness illicits shame, and so they're afraid to make themselves vulnerable for fear of looking weak.

Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn't change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.

Many people think of perfectionism as striving to be your best, but it is not about self-improvement; it's about earning approval and acceptance.

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