Stop shoulding on yourself

I hope to die in the saddle seat.

You mainly feel the way you think.

The goal of all life is to have a ball.

Worrying about dying will hardly help you live.

Neurosis is just a high-class word for whining.

The art of love is largely the art of persistence.

Worry itself is one of the most painful conditions.

Humans can always accept themselves unconditionally.

People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.

Lack of forgiveness of others breeds lack of self-forgiveness.

Needing leads to bleeding - to almost all inevitable suffering.

People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.

Strong feelings are fine; it's the overreactions that mess us up.

Even when people act nastily to you, don't condemn them or retaliate.

You have only to exist as you do and to live your life as best you can.

Failure doesn't have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.

Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.

Freud had a gene for inefficiency, and I think I have a gene for efficiency.

Most things worth having require some sacrifice, usually more than you expect.

If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.

Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny.

For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency.

We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming - or damning.

Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.

In fact most of what we call anxiety is overconcern about what someone thinks of you.

You never truly need what you want. That is the main and thoroughgoing key to serenity.

If the Martians ever find out how human beings think, they'll kill themselves laughing.

The easy way out is often just that-the 'easy' way out of the most rewarding lifestyle.

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own.

So I'd better stop my whining and help myself cope better with even the worst Adversities.

If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other experiments.

We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.

Whenever you avoid alarming situations, you almost always increase your anxiety about them.

People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change.

Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over the years.

Eating is always a decision, nobody forces your hand to pick up food and put it into your mouth.

To err is human; to forgive people and yourself for poor behavior is to be sensible and realistic.

People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.

You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.

Convince yourself that worrying about many situations will make them worse rather than improve them.

I'm one of the best-loved psychologists in the United States, but I'm also probably the most hated one.

When people change their irrational beliefs to undogmatic flexible preferences, they become less disturbed.

There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.

Whining about your own, others', or the world's failings is a main element in what we usually call neurosis.

Even injustice has it's good points. It gives me the challenge of being as happy as I can in an unfair world.

I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.

There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.

The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery.

The individual is taught that there is nothing that he as a total person is to feel ashamed of or self-hating for.

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